Why children fail in their toilet training
As the part of the children milestone, toilet training is the same important compared to the walking and speaking training. As a parent, you must know the signs and steps your child should follow, so that there will be no failure. Unfortunately, a lot of parents have to struggle during the period. They say toilet training is the most difficult time they have. Actually they are wrong. It is their children who feel confused and frustrated during the training. Children do not know why they have to go to the toilet. They also do not understand about the schedule and they got frustrated because you keep asking them to follow what you said. Furthermore, if you get angry or lose your patience, your children are the ones who will suffer more than you.
You have to know that mostly parents are source and the ones who have to responsible to the toilet training failure. First, some parents are lazy to notice the signs that their children are ready for the training. They are too busy with other activities so that they believe that diaper is better. Moreover, some other parents even think that toilet training is not necessary because their children will understand the needs to go to the toilet themselves. No training is needed. Well, it is completely a big mistake to think that way. Your laziness to change the diaper and change the diaper habit to toilet habit will affect your children negatively in the following years. When your child is going to school, none of her friend is wearing diaper to school even the kindergarten students. Every student can use toilet well.
Lack of knowledge is also the source of failure in toilet training. This will be so bad because once you get pregnant, you have to search and learn about caring, raising, and training the baby. Many times, lots of parents do not know what to do and act when the child gives the signs of bowel movement. Even when they know, they have no knowledge about guiding and tend to be angry when the child does not follow the instruction. Once the child start to cry, parents will judge her as spoiled, naughty, and the worst, stupid girl. All of them are considered as big mistake in parenting the children. All children are smart and clever. It is just parents who need to learn and keep gathering parenting knowledge to raise their children.
No worry for having no improvement just be consistent in toilet training
Once you and your couple decide to start the toilet training, both of you have to be consistent in many things. Consistency is needed to make your child accustom with the new activities. The facts you have to know is your child does not know about timing. She only knows day and night. Day is for playing and night is for sleeping. So, start by taking her to the toilet just after she gets up in the morning. Ask her to feel the signs of pee and bowel movement. If she doesn’t feel or know any signs, it is fine, even when she doesn’t pee or poop, you do not have to be panic. Do this every day, until she knows that going toilet should be done in the morning after she gets up.
However, you do not be sad or worry when she does not show any improvement for about two or three months. Toilet training takes time. In certain cases, the training can last about two years when the children are two until four years old. Many times, parents get panic and frustrated because the children do not want to follow the instruction and keep poop in the diaper or panty. The frustration is added by the fact that parents have to clean the dirt in many places. Indeed, this is quite tiring. In this situation, your child is not aware yet about their body function. The potty training you have just started is done to help your child recognize the signs and they know when they have to go to the toilet on her own.
However, you do not be sad or worry when she does not show any improvement for about two or three months. Toilet training takes time.
Keep being consistent although sometimes your child rejects to go to the toilet. Take a deep breath and say something calmly and believe that the efforts will result something positive. Your child is able and want to go to the toilet herself and you do not have to spend more money for the disposable diaper, cleaner, wipes, and cream. Spend your money for purchasing cloth pants with cute cartoon characters that your child likes. Go straight to make your child wear the cloth pants and remove the diapers from your child sight. This will help the child to forget about the needs of diaper and start to understand that she needs cloth pants.